04 September 2017

Idul Adha 2017


Mungkin memang bukan yang terbesar, 
bukan yang termahal, 
bukan yang terbaik,
tapi aku bisa melihat kebahagiaan itu di wajah mereka...

Semoga dagingmu menjadi berkah ya...
Dan semoga nanti kamu bisa menjadi salah satu pengawal dan kendaraan untuk bapak ibuku di akhirat kelak nanti, amin :)

26 August 2017

Mediator

beberapa anggep kurang valid, banyak juga yang percaya. mungkin gw termasuk kelompok yang kedua. cuma pingin simpen aja untuk nanti diliat lagi, karena ternyata gw 'evolved' (iyalah jelas), dulu beda ama sekarang. menarik untuk cari tau beberapa waktu kedepan setelah beberapa kejadian, pekerjaan, pengalaman, dll apakah akan berubah lagi?

untuk yang sekarang, gw rasa ini >80% akurat...atau bahkan lebih (subjective opinion).



Mediator personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, Mediators have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the Mediator personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.
Being a part of the Diplomat Role group, Mediators are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – Mediators are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the Mediator personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.
All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.
J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable Mediators to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. Fantasy worlds in particular fascinate Mediators, more than any other personality type. The strength of their visionary communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous Mediators are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to Mediators, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.
Mediators have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.
Mediators’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to Mediators’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, Mediators will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for Mediators’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.
If they are not careful, Mediators can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. Mediators often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, Mediators may start to lose touch, withdrawing into “hermit mode”, and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.
Luckily, like the flowers in spring, Mediator’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediator Strengths

  • Idealistic – Mediators’ friends and loved ones will come to admire and depend on them for their optimism. Their unshaken belief that all people are inherently good, perhaps simply misunderstood, lends itself to an incredibly resilient attitude in the face of hardship.
  • Seek and Value Harmony – People with the Mediator personality type have no interest in having power over others, and don’t much care for domineering attitudes at all. They prefer a more democratic approach, and work hard to ensure that every voice and perspective is heard.
  • Open-Minded and Flexible – A live-and-let-live attitude comes naturally to Mediators, and they dislike being constrained by rules. Mediators give the benefit of the doubt too, and so long as their principles and ideas are not being challenged, they’ll support others’ right to do what they think is right.
  • Very Creative – Mediators combine their visionary nature with their open-mindedness to allow them to see things from unconventional perspectives. Being able to connect many far-flung dots into a single theme, it’s no wonder that many Mediators are celebrated poets and authors.
  • Passionate and Energetic – When something captures Mediators’ imagination and speaks to their beliefs, they go all in, dedicating their time, energy, thoughts and emotions to the project. Their shyness keeps them from the podium, but they are the first to lend a helping hand where it’s needed.
  • Dedicated and Hard-Working – While others focusing on the challenges of the moment may give up when the going gets tough, Mediators (especially Assertive ones) have the benefit of their far-reaching vision to help them through. Knowing that what they are doing is meaningful gives people with this personality type a sense of purpose and even courage when it comes to accomplishing something they believe in.

Mediator Weaknesses

  • Too Idealistic – Mediators often take their idealism too far, setting themselves up for disappointment as, again and again, evil things happen in the world. This is true on a personal level too, as Mediators may not just idealize their partners, but idolize them, forgetting that no one is perfect.
  • Too Altruistic – Mediators sometimes see themselves as selfish, but only because they want to give so much more than they are able to. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, as they try to push themselves to commit to a chosen cause or person, forgetting to take care of the needs of others in their lives, and especially themselves.
  • Impractical – When something captures Mediators’ imagination, they can neglect practical matters like day-to-day maintenance and simple pleasures. Sometimes people with the Mediator personality type will take this asceticism so far as to neglect eating and drinking as they pursue their passion or cause.
  • Dislike Dealing With Data – Mediators are often so focused on the big picture that they forget the forest is made of individual trees. Mediators are in tune with emotions and morality, and when the facts and data contradict their ideals, it can be a real challenge for them.
  • Take Things Personally – Mediators often take challenges and criticisms personally, rather than as inspiration to reassess their positions. Avoiding conflict as much as possible, Mediators will put a great deal of time and energy into trying to align their principles and the criticisms into a middle ground that satisfies everybody.
  • Difficult to Get to Know – Mediators are private, reserved and self-conscious. This makes them notoriously difficult to really get to know, and their need for these qualities contributes to the guilt they often feel for not giving more of themselves to those they care about.

MEDIATOR RELATIONSHIPS

Mediators are dreamy idealists, and in the pursuit of the perfect relationship, this quality shows strongest. Never short on imagination, Mediators dream of the perfect relationship, forming an image of this pedestalled ideal that is their soul mate, playing and replaying scenarios in their heads of how things will be. This is a role that no person can hope to fill, and people with the Mediator personality type need to recognize that nobody’s perfect, and that relationships don’t just magically fall into place – they take compromise, understanding and effort.

Love All, Trust a Few, Do Wrong to None

Fortunately these are qualities that Mediators are known for, and while it can be a challenge to separate long-fostered fantasy from reality, Mediators’ tendency to focus their attention on just a few people in their lives means that they will approach new relationships wholeheartedly, with a sense of inherent value, dedication and trust.
Mediators share a sincere belief in the idea of relationships – that two people can come together and make each other better and happier than they were alone, and they will take great efforts to show support and affection in order to make this ideal a reality.
But Mediators aren’t necessarily in a rush to commit – they are, after all, Prospecting (P) types, and are almost always looking to either establish a new relationship or improve an existing one – they need to be sure they’ve found someone compatible. In dating, Mediators will often start with a flurry of comparisons, exploring all the ways the current flame matches with the ideal they’ve imagined. This progression can be a challenge for a new partner, as not everyone is able to keep up with Mediators’ rich imagination and moral standards – if incompatibilities and conflict over this initial rush mount, the relationship can end quickly, with Mediators likely sighing that “it wasn’t meant to be.”
As a relationship takes hold, people with the Mediator personality type will show themselves to be passionate, hopeless romantics, while still respecting their partners’ independence. Mediators take the time to understand those they care about, while at the same time helping them to learn, grow and change. While Mediators are well-meaning, not everyone appreciates what can come across as constantly being told that they need to improve – or, put another way, that they’re not good enough. Mediators would be aghast to find that their intents were interpreted this way, but it’s a real risk, and if their partner is as averse to conflict as Mediators themselves, it can boil under the surface for some time before surfacing, too late to fix.

Better Three Hours Too Soon Than a Minute Too Late

This aversion to conflict, while contributing greatly to stability in the relationship when done right, is probably the most urgent quality for Mediators to work on. Between their sensitivity and imagination, Mediators are prone to internalizing even objective statements and facts, reading into them themes and exaggerated consequences, sometimes responding as though these comments are metaphors designed to threaten the very foundations of their principles. Naturally this is almost certainly an overreaction, and Mediators should practice what they preach, and focus on improving their ability to respond to criticism with calm objectivity, rather than irrational accusations and weaponized guilt.
But that’s at their uncommon worst – at their best, Mediators do everything they can to be the ideal partner, staying true to themselves and encouraging their partners to do the same. Mediators take their time in becoming physically intimate so that they can get to know their partners, using their creativity to understand their wants and needs, and adapt to them. People with this personality type are generous in their affection, with a clear preference for putting the pleasure of their partners first – it is in knowing that their partners are satisfied that Mediators truly feel the most pleasure.

MEDIATOR FRIENDS

The true friends of people with the Mediator personality type tend to be few and far between, but those that make the cut are often friends for life. The challenge is the many dualities that this type harbors when it comes to being sociable – Mediators crave the depth of mutual human understanding, but tire easily in social situations; they are excellent at reading into others’ feelings and motivations, but are often unwilling to provide others the same insight into themselves – it’s as though Mediators like the idea of human contact, but not the reality of social contact.

How Poor Are They That Have Not Patience

In a lot of ways, this limits the potential pool of friends to other types in the Diplomat Role group, who are able to pick up on the subtle clues left by their Mediator friends, and who are more likely than not to enjoy something of a human enigma. A friendship with a Turbulent Executive (ESTJ-T) on the other hand, governed by social conventions and community participation as they are, would almost be a non-sequitur – though Mediators may find the idea of being paired with their opposite fascinating enough to outweigh the practical challenges to such a friendship.
To top it all off, ideas like networking and “the friend of my friend is my friend” hold little weight with Mediators. Friendships are earned on their own merit, by dint of the intuitive respect Mediators have for those with similar principles and values, rather than more practical alignments like those of coworkers. Mediators’ tendency to protect their sensitive inner cores and values from criticism, especially if they are on the more turbulent side of the spectrum, means that acquaintances will likely get nowhere near them without sustained and tactful effort.
But, if Mediators’ shields are properly navigated and they decide to open up and trust another person, a strong, stable friendship will ensue, marked by passionate support and idealism, subtle poetic wit, and a level of emotional insight that is hard to match. Mediators’ friends will be rewarded with calm, sensitivity and depth, and an ever-present desire to help, learn, and grow. But even the most confident and assertive Mediators will only be able to keep up this relaxed and present exterior for so long.
Even as friendships grow stronger and deeper, and friends are lulled into a sense of mutual understanding, Mediators’ enigmatic qualities will never truly vanish.
Mediators will always need to disappear for a while, removing themselves from others so they can re-center on their own minds and feelings. Often enough people with the Mediator personality type will emerge from this time alone having come to some momentous decision that even their closest friends didn’t know was weighing on them, evading even the option of receiving the sort of support and advice they so readily give. Such is Mediators’ way, for better or for worse.

MEDIATOR PARENTS

People who share the Mediator personality type share a tendency to not only strive to learn and grow as principled, moral individuals, but to bring likeminded people on that journey with them. In their own subtle, often shy way, Mediators want to lead others forward, as kindred spirits – they will find no greater opportunity for this than in parenthood.
From the start, Mediator parents are warm, loving and supportive, and take immeasurable joy in the wide-eyed wonder of their children as they explore, learn, and grow. People with the Mediator personality type will give their children the freedom they need to do this, keeping an open mind and letting their children gain their own sense of understanding. At the same time, Mediator parents will try to provide a backdrop to this freedom and experience, establishing a set of morals and values that guide that liberty with a sense of personal responsibility.
Mediators never stop encouraging their children to learn and grow, and they consider it their duty to inspire and motivate them, both by using their sensitivity and intuition to speak in their children’s language and by leading the way themselves.
However, this sense of responsibility has a harder side – if their children fall foul of their Mediator parents’ values, it will not be taken lightly. People with the Mediator personality type take their responsibilities in parenthood seriously, and in this measure above all others.
In some ways, Mediators’ tendency to hide their inner selves from view can be an advantage in parenting, as they are able to portray themselves as good role models on the outside, shielding their loved ones not just from their own occasional anger and depression, but from the broader evils in the world as well. This helps Mediators to demonstrate outwardly the moral lessons they want their children to adopt, and at the same time to establish a sense of harmony in the household.

Modest Doubt Is Called the Beacon of the Wise

The biggest challenge for Mediator parents, especially more Turbulent types who often have even more trouble with self-doubt than most, is to establish more practical and day-to-day structures and rules. Mediators may be able to convey the abstract value of honesty with remarkable skill, but it’s not always easy to equate that idea with the practical reality of their children being home from the movies when they said they were going to be, and it’s especially challenging when these misunderstandings result in conflict. In these situations, Mediator personalities do best with a partner who is able to play a stronger hand in more administrative tasks than they can, so they can focus on the underlying spirit of those rules.

MEDIATOR CAREERS

It is perhaps more challenging for Mediators to find a satisfying career than any other type. Though intelligent, the regimented learning style of most schools makes long years earning an advanced degree a formidable undertaking for people with the Mediator personality type – at the same time, that’s often what’s needed to advance in a field that rings true for them. Mediators often wish that they could just be, doing what they love without the stress and rigor of professional life.
Oftentimes, as with so many things, the answer lies somewhere in the middle, in a line of work that begins with passion and dedication, but which comes to require training so that the academia feels intimately linked to that passion. Too many Mediators drift in frustration, ultimately succumbing to the necessities of day-to-day life in a job that wasn’t meant for them. But it turns out that, despite such exacting demands, modern economics places a premium on the very keys to Mediators’ challenges: their creativity, independence, and need for meaningful relationships with individuals who need their help.

There’s Place and Means for Everyone

First and foremost is seemingly every Mediators’ dream growing up – to become an author. While a novel is a classic choice, it is rarely an accessible one, and there are many viable options for freedom-loving Mediators. The internet brings to the world the opportunities of blogging and freelance work – as organizations expand their reach beyond their native tongues, they will come to depend on Mediator personality types, with their gift for language and written expression, to take their rougher translations and stale pitches and inject them with a sense of beauty and poetry. Smaller organizations will need more than ever to express with elegance the value they bring to local communities.
Most any cause, idea, or field can benefit from the artful and natural expression that Mediators bring to the table, and Mediators have their pick of the world in choosing who they work with.
The real beauty here is that it takes a core interest that people with the Mediator personality type share, while helping a cause they believe in, independently, through creative expression and personal growth, and makes it applicable to any interest there is. There will always be a need, and now more than ever, to win people’s hearts and minds with the written word.
Some Mediators will prefer a still more personal touch, being able to work face-to-face with clients, seeing that their personal effort really impacts another’s quality of life. Service careers such as massage therapy, physical rehabilitation, counselling, social work, psychology and even academic roles and retraining can be exceptionally rewarding for Mediators, who take pride in the progress and growth they help to foster. People with the Mediator personality type have a tendency to put others’ interests ahead of their own, a mixed blessing by itself, but when a patient takes their first unaided step in the long road to recovery after an accident, nothing will feel more rewarding than that selflessness.

If to Do Were as Easy as to Know What Were Good to Do...

Where Mediators will not thrive is in a high-stress, team-heavy, busy environment that burdens them with bureaucracy and tedium. Mediators need to be able to work with creativity and consideration – high-pressure salespeople they are not. It can be a challenge to avoid these roles, as they are the basis for so much starting work, and it’s often a risk to break away into something less dependable, but more rewarding. To find a career that resonates with Mediators’ values though, that’s more than just a job, sometimes it’s just what needs to be done.

MEDIATORS IN THE WORKPLACE

In the workplace, Mediators face the challenge of taking their work and their profession personally. To Mediators, if it isn’t worth doing, it isn’t really worth doing, and this sense of moral purpose in their work colors everything from how they respond to authority to how they express it. Though the way the Mediator personality type shows through depends on the position, there are a few basic truths about what Mediators seek in the workplace: they value harmony, need an emotional and moral connection to their work, and loathe bureaucratic tedium.

Mediator Subordinates

As subordinates, Mediators prefer latitude, and would much rather immerse themselves in a project, alone or with a close team, than simply be told what task to do and move on. People with the Mediator personality type aren’t looking for easy, forgettable work that pays the bills, they’re looking for meaningful work that they actually want to think about, and it helps for their managers to frame responsibilities in terms of emotional merit rather than cold rationalization or business for its own sake. Mediators would rather know that their work will help to deliver a service they believe in than to know that the bottom line has been boosted by 3%.
If these standards are met, managers will find an extremely dedicated and considerate employee in Mediators. As idealistic opportunity-seekers Mediators may not always work well in technical applications, where the facts and logic really matter and critique is often necessary, but they work beautifully in more human and creative endeavors. While some types, especially those in the Analyst Role group, respond favorably to negative feedback, taking criticism as an opportunity to not make the same mistake twice, people with the Mediator personality type would much rather hear what they did right and focus on what to do, rather than what not to.

Mediator Colleagues

Mediators feel most comfortable among colleagues – they aren’t interested in controlling others, and have a similar distaste for being controlled. Among their colleagues, Mediators will feel freer to share their ideas, and while they may maintain some psychological distance, they will make every effort to be pleasant, friendly and supportive – so long as their coworkers reciprocate. Mediators don’t like conflict or picking sides, and will do everything they can to maintain harmony and cooperation.
Most of this comes down to good communication, which Mediators prefer to conduct in person, for that personal touch, or in writing, where they can compose and perfect their statements. People with the Mediator personality type avoid using phones if they can, having the worst of both worlds, being both detached and uncomposed. Mediators also like to feel like their conversations are meaningful, and while they enjoy exploring philosophy more than most, their patience for arbitrary hypothetical brainstorming or dense technical discussions is limited.

Mediator Managers

As managers, Mediators are among the least likely to seem like managers – their egalitarian attitudes lend respect to every subordinate, preferring communication as human beings than as a boss/employee opposition. People with the Mediator personality type are flexible, open-minded and give their subordinates the tools they need, be they responsible delegation or an intuitive and receptive sounding board, to get the job done. Keeping their eyes on the horizon, Mediators set goals that achieve a desirable end, and help the people working under them to make that happen.
There is a downside to this style, as sometimes the boss just needs to be the boss. Mediators know how they feel about criticism, and are reluctant to subject others to that same experience, whether it’s needed or even welcome. Further complicating this role, when Mediators are under stress, as when someone really does warrant criticism, they can become extremely emotional – they may not show it, but it can affect their judgment, or even cause them to withdraw inwards, in ways that can really hold back their team.

CONCLUSION

Few personality types are as poetic and kind-hearted as Mediators. Their altruism and vivid imagination allow Mediators to overcome many challenging obstacles, more often than not brightening the lives of those around them. Mediators’ creativity is invaluable in many areas, including their own personal growth.
Yet Mediators can be easily tripped up in areas where idealism and altruism are more of a liability than an asset. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner, making friends, reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder or planning for the future, Mediators need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills.
What you have read so far is just an introduction into the complex concept that is the Mediator personality type. You may have muttered to yourself, “wow, this is so accurate it’s a little creepy” or “finally, someone understands me!” You may have even asked “how do they know more about me than the people I’m closest to?”
This is not a trick. You felt understood because you were. We’ve studied how Mediators think and what they need to reach their full potential. And no, we did not spy on you – many of the challenges you’ve faced and will face in the future have been overcome by other Mediators. You simply need to learn how they succeeded.
But in order to do that, you need to have a plan, a personal roadmap. The best car in the world will not take you to the right place if you do not know where you want to go. We have told you how Mediators tend to behave in certain circumstances and what their key strengths and weaknesses are. Now we need to go much deeper into your personality type and answer “why?”, “how?” and “what if?”
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yak...kita lihat nanti...

23 August 2017

beberapa hari lalu seorang teman yg aktif nge-blog (dan kadang ikutin blog saya juga) nanya bbrp tips tentang recording audio untuk podcast. berhubung gw cuma paham praktisnya aja, jadilah muncul saran2 ngasal bin ajaib.

pas udah rilis podcast dan di share ke gw, ternyata dia (sepertinya) agak merahasiakan podcastnya, karena channelnya bener2 privat dan anonim wkwkwk (makanya gak gw tulis disini namanya tapi tetep pake hint.

gw jadi pengen nyoba juga hahaha...tapi yaaa lebih karena setuju sama beberapa alasannya sih, dia bilang kalo lo nulis kadang lo keburu kebentur sama gimana cara lo menyampaikan, pake kata ganti aku gw saya atau apa...trus gimana juga, walopun lo bilang blog lo buat curhatan pasif lo, karena lo tau akan ada orang2 yg baca lo akan tetap memikirkan struktur, alur dan buat gw kadang keribetan teknis ini pada akhirnya bisa jadi writer's block.

salah satu kelebihan suara lainnya adalah intonasi, yang kadang gak bisa diwakili dalam tulisan.

dan salah satu kelebihan tulisan dibanding audio adalah 'pagar', lewat tulisan ada hal2 yang kadang lo bisa biarkan orang yang baca berimajinasi lebih.

suara gw juga sepertinya gak enak sih kalo dijadiin podcast...tapi gatau deh hahaha...kita coba aja. :D

18 August 2017

Kitchen's Nightmare

Beberapa hari terakhir gw punya kebiasaan baru, nonton Kitchen's nightmare...awalnya karena suka liatin makanan2nya, tapi lama2 setelah liatin full episodenya, gw jadi lebih tertarik perhatiin gimana cara gordon ramsay menganalisis masalah, personality dia, efektivitas dia dalam bekerja, dan gimana dia bisa nembus secara efektif invisible wall di tiap restoran yg dia tanganin dan shoot stright to the problem.

berhubung gw udah tua veteran di dunia per-MB-an, pasti gw akan relate to kehidupan dunia per-MB-an. walopun pada akhirnya relevan ke dunia managerial secara keseluruhan.

at some point, gw coba posisikan diri gw kalo jadi ramsay, dalam arti punya 1 keahlian spesifik di 1 bidang, tapi juga dituntut untuk punya kemampuan di bidang lain.

IMO, that's what will happen in real world situation...lo dituntut gak cuma punya 1 atau 2 keahlian aja...tapi beberapa keahlian sekaligus. well, bisa kita bagi (gampangnya) jadi keahlian primer dan keahlian sekunder.

keahlian primer dimana lo menggantukan hidup lo dari situ. where you make living from, your real self-actualization medium, not only your jobs but your career.

keahlian sekunder dimana sifatnya lebih memperlancar jalan lo untuk mencapai goals lo. kaya oli di dalam sebuah mesin. mungkin sifatnya gak perlu terlalu spesifik, gak perlu terlalu master...it is more like a swiss army knife, gak spesifik untuk membedah masalah secara dalam, but it will make you get by safely.

mungkin (pasti sih sepertinya), lo akan punya keahlian tersier, yang sifatnya lebih di permukaan lagi dibandingkan keahlian sekunder lo.

dan secara personality, gw suka sama orang kaya gordon ramsay. dia punya keahlian khusus yg spesifik, memasak. tapi dia juga seorang physical trainer, punya managerial skill yang bagus...dan selama show KN ini dia menunjukkan bahwa dia juga bisa jadi pendengar yang baik, bahkan di beberapa episode dia bisa semacam jadi konsultan perkawinan (dimana biasanya restoran yg dia tanganin milik sepasang suami istri yg diunjung kebangkrutan/pisah). dan dia juga seorang motivator yang oke.

suka caranya identifikasi masalah, to the point, gak bertele-tele, logis, dan (hampir) selalu bisa nembus macem2 tembok yang jadi penghalang solusi. bisa nembus chef yang keras kepala, chef yang delusional, chef yang gak pede, atau juga manager yang tempramen, didn't know how to manage and run the restaurant.

satu hal yang menarik, let's assume that ramsay is a pro (yes of course), gw perhatiin bahwa dia selalu 'back to basic'. ada beberapa kasus, restoran yg dia tanganin chefnya punya signature dish yg rumit, tapi ketika bikin sesuatu yg simpel kayak adonan pizza aja salah, dia akan maksa ngerombak menu ke makanan yg efektif, efisien, low cost dan enak. dan gw perhatiin, dia selalu pesen makanan 'basic', seperti mac n cheese, atau kalau restoran spesifik negara/daerah tertentu dia akan pesen makanan 'basic', khas dan 'root' makanan dari daerah itu...misal resto italia, dia pesen ravioli, spaghetti, atau meatball, dan dia bisa langsung cek restoran itu beres apa ngga dari sampel makanannya. dia sering melakukan blink-judgement dari sebuah makanan, dan selalu tepat sasaran.

dari sini bisa diliat, kalo lo mau improve sesuatu, lo harus selalu cek dasarnya, basicnya, pondasinya...and it is a back and forth process. ketika dia menemukan chef yg masak makanan simpel aja gabisa, dia gak ragu untuk merombak pondasinya.

ini kalo di marching percussion mirip lo ngecek legato, ngecek single stroke dan double stroke aja dulu. have a glimpse of that, baru lo judge itu bener apa ngga? kalo ngga bener, baru dicari letak masalahnya dimana. di jari? jam terbang? jam review? atau apa? baru lo bisa kasih solusi yang tepat sasaran, dan habis itu lo bisa membuat improvement.

kejelian seorang ahli dalam melihat masalah (sayangnya) harus dibarengi dengan jam terbang. jam terbang ngeberesin masalah, jam terbang ketemu macem2 tipe masalah. menentukan KEMANA lo harus melihat masalah juga bukan hal yang gampang. karena kalo lo salah liat dimana masalahnya, (minjem istilah ramsay) lo akan seperti 'busy idiot'. kerja keras, tapi di tempat yang salah. lo menghabiskan banyak jam di sesuatu yang tidak seharusnya diperbaiki, atau sesuatu yang seharusnya bukan yang pertama diperbaiki. lo akan membuang energi lo, membuang waktu (biaya juga), masalah gak kelar, dan lo akan merasa frustasi. kombinasi yang cocok untuk bikin orang yang gak punya determinasi tinggi untuk langsung menyerah.

dan satu hal yang penting lagi...lo harus bisa objektif terhadap diri lo sendiri dan open minded. kenapa? karena ini proses dan selalu back and forth, lo harus selalu ngecek ulang apa yang lo lakukan bener apa ngga?

satu hal lagi, cari feedback dari pelanggan lo. dalam hal KN, feedback dari pelanggan itu utama. gabisa dengan attitude, like my food or not, if you don't like it get the hell outta here. nah feedback ini bisa jadi hal tricky sih, kadang lo harus pinter nentuin kapan harus buka kuping dan tutup kuping.

gw bukan orang yang percaya kalimat "jangan dengerin dari siapa tapi perhatikan isi pesannya". gatau sih, buat gw that's not the way it work. gw sih gamau buang tenaga dengerin seorang pencuri ceramah tentang kejujuran.

as a leader/menager lo harus bisa melakukan 'helicopter view', ini yang gw dapet dr KN dan liat cara ramsay nanganin masalah dan kerja. at some point you have to really take a look on the big picture of something and identify what is really the core problem/s. and you always have to willing to be the 'glue' for your team so it won't fell apart...

trus sekarang jadi laper


12 August 2017


Rabbigfirli waliwalidayya warhamhuma kama rabbayanni shoghiron

11 August 2017

Setelah sekian lama #2

this song just keep spinning in my head recently...and it always makes me feel sooo damn happy!

I just can't help myself from smiling :D


and I really love this version where Jess Weiss is on vocal! she's just too damn cute and hot at the same time, gosh...


03 August 2017

Setelah sekian lama #1

Setelah sekian lama ngebiarin ini blog gak diupdate (karena prefer gak di post, cuma disimpen sendiri), akhirnya sekarang memutuskan mau ngepost lg (info penting).
Berhubung anaknya suka banget berjam-jam surfing di youtube, liatin macem-macem hal, gak jarang gw nemu hal-hal yg diluar kebiasaan gw/yg gak biasa gw konsumsi...biasanya netizen utube nyebutnya daerah ini 'dark side of utube' (atau bisa jg sih hidden paradise/gem on utube, which ever u prefer).
I never really do a tarot reading. Mungkin pernah sih sekali atau dua kali...nyoba, just for fun.
And then I stumble upon this video...

video 1

and this

video 2

Basically it is just an august 2017 tarot reading for my zodiac sign.
At first I am thinking, well, just for fun why not...sekalian nunggu ngantuk, browsing menjelang tidur.
Tapi yg terjadi malah, kayak ketampar2 liat videonya, bukannya ngantuk malah melek ha ha ha. Gatau sih, mungkin cocoklogi atau apa...tapi yg jelas semua perkataannya on point! Selain suaranya enak didenger sih...gw membayangkan kalopun ini bukan video tentang tarot reading, tapi misal cuma video berisi general advice aja, video ini cocok buat gw (saat ini)...

Oh well...a lot of anxiousness happened in a past few weeks...I think I must start to think about myself

But at the same time, I am actually feel a lot 'refreshed' after I started to let go of all the things that happened to me...

fingers crossed.